July
21
2010
Today was one of those days that reminded me how much I love my job in working with seniors and learning from each of their life stories. I often come across stories of survival, love stories, stories of Veteran’s, and stories of success (well, they’re all successful in my eyes). Today was a love story. I met with a beautiful couple. Although they did not have much, they had each other and that was all that mattered to them. The husband cares for his wife 24/7 and makes sacrifices for her beyond our wildest imagination.
Sometimes it’s so easy to get caught up in materialistic things, well, ’stuff’, really…’stuff’ that we will never be able to hold on to for long or take with us after we are gone. This couple can not afford the ’stuff’ that the rest of us seem obsessed over some days. This couple must pay for their medications, food on their table, clothing on their back (which they are certainly not buying at the trendy stores), and other bare necessities of life. What they can hold on to is each other. They expressed a love toward the other that was rare, it was unique. They did not find joy in what the ’stuff’ they had and were not sorrowed by the ’stuff’ they did not have. This couple found joy in one another and the mutual love they shared and their sorrow came from the fact that they were both ill and would soon have to be separated due to a number of needs factors.
Without getting into too much further detail for privacy reasons, I left their home with tears in my eyes, I called my husband, told him I loved him, and realized that my relationship with others and my personal choice to have a relationship with God was all that mattered. It’s not the stuff that makes life meaningful…there is SO much more to life than that and for that alone, I am thankful!
If you have a life story to share, please e-mail me at info@pavelko.org
July
9
2010
1. What are your personal desires?
Would you prefer to age in place at home, a 55+ community, or other type of community setting? Should your health decline, would you prefer to bring someone into the home to care for your needs or would you prefer to move to a community setting ? Determine what your personal desires are and make them known to family and friends.
2. When are you considering hiring services or moving to a community?
While some communities have current availability, there are other communities in Lancaster that have over 5 year waiting lists and longer. Once you determine what your personal desires are, be sure to start putting a plan into place for yourself. Would you desire to move into a two bedroom cottage? If so, consider placing your application on a waiting list.
3. How much can you afford to pay for services?
You may often hear that in-home care is half the cost of long term care in a nursing home. This is not always the case! You may be paying $432 for around-the-clock care at home opposed to $250 per day in a nursing home. Make an informed decision for yourself regarding the care that is needed and desired by the individual and his or her family.
4. Who can you turn to for trusted advice and further direction?
Make sure you have good trusted relationships formed with your children and other trusted relatives and friends, your attorney, financial planner, and geriatric care manager. These professionals can often provide you and your family with further direction as it pertains to planning ahead for the potential need for long term care.
5. Are you aware of ALL options available to you in your community?
In-home care and retirement communities are NOT the only options available to you. Adult day services, medication devices, emergency call systems, home renovations, and therapy are just a few of the many options out there that may be available to your loved one. Additionally, explore all of the funding options that may help subsidize the cost of care.
June
29
2010
Alzheimer’s can be a cruel disease. Often families are saddened and frustrated. It can be easy to force an individual to enter back into reality, but few times does this really work. Demanding that an individual recognize that it is winter and not summer or other facts of reality create unnecessary anxiety and tension between the two parties. Validating, on the other hand, allows your loved one to freely express their emotions without feeling judged.
Ask your loved one who, what, when, and where questions and show a sincere interest by showing them that you are interested in what they are trying to tell you. Perhaps they want to see their brother, but he has since passed. Rather than creating anxiety and sadness by telling them that their brother passed away, ask them what they miss about their brother? What did they enjoy doing most with him?
Any individual, senior or child, one with memory loss or cognitive ability need validated…they need accepted and acknowledged as a human being. Naomi File is the founder of the Validation Technique. View this incredible video with Naomi and Gladys Wilson. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrZXz10FcVM I hope you have gained as much from this video as I have! Please feel free to share your own experiences and leave a comment.
June
16
2010
While the CLASS Act will not cover 100% of the costs of long term care, it is one solution to help individuals subsidize the costs of care that may be received as they age.
The CLASS (Community Living Assistance Services and Support) Act Law, which is part of the Health Care Reform, will be set up as a voluntary national insurance program to help pay for long term care at home. This Both part-time and full time employees will have the option to take a payroll deductions, which again, will go towards paying for long term care at home. They will be eligible for an average of $75 per day, should they reach the point where they are not able to perform the basic Activities of Daily Living, which include bathing, dressing, continence, toileting, transferring, and eating. This money can be used to pay for a wide variety of services from non-medical to home modifications and more. Keep in mind, an individual must pay into this program for five (5) years before benefits are payable.
Please use the following link as a resource.
http://www.lifecarefunding.com/blog/file.axd?file=2010%2f5%2fCLASS+Act+Summary+-+UNUM+5+10.pdf
June
2
2010
Frequently, families wait until their loved ones need immediate care. They realize that their loved one is not taking medications as directed, exhibiting strange behaviors (paranoia, forgetfulness, lack of involvement in activities they normally enjoy), and needs additional supervision and assistance.
There are many services available in the home from live-in care, companion care, medical care, and even behavioral care. In addition, there are many forms of technology out there, in turn, keeping seniors safer in their homes longer.
Do you have a contingency plan in place? Should your loved one need long term care, are you aware of ALL of the options out there? Do you grasp how long waiting lists are these days? Are you aware of what financial resources are available to help subsidize the costs of long term care at home or in a retirement setting? And, does your loved one meet the financial qualifications required by the community of preference?
While many individuals want to age in place (and that is a realistic possibility), it is important to make sure your loved ones are not on the borderline of qualifying for a community of their choice. If they are close to not qualifying now and assets are tapped into for in-home care, a few months from now, they will likely not qualify. EDUCATION and having a plan in place needs to be the #1 priority!